This is EM Mahatma Prabhu’s short answer to a devotee who wanted to know how to harmonize and deal with what he wants and what he doesn’t want in his life.
“The truth is always somewhere in the middle. You need to understand that when you act too one-sidedly, you shut yourself off from that part of the world that you probably don’t want to acknowledge, let alone interact with. This may be because it is somewhat difficult for you to change or take into account other realities, so it is easier to decide that the other side does not matter to you, is wrong, bad, or even stupid.
This is the starting point. Let me know if this answer helped.
Hare Krishna Mahatma Das