What Forgiveness Is and Is Not

Forgiveness is:
• Giving up all hope for a better past
• Giving up the resentment to which you are entitled
• Returning unkind acts with kindness
• Taking responsibility for how you feel
• Healing your wounds
• A trainable skill that everyone can learn and practice
• Living in the present instead of being controlled by the past
• Taking back your power
• Becoming a hero instead of a victim
• A means to release negative energy that could be potentially
• damaging to your mental and physical health
• Your choice
• The virtue of the brave
• Giving kindness
• Showing mercy
• Walking in another’s shoes
• An act of love
• Understanding and accepting other people
• Breaking the emotional bond you have with your offender
• The attribute of the strong
• Setting oneself free
• Forgiving oneself
• Leading us to the super natural realm

Forgiveness is not:
• Forgetting that something painful happened
• Giving up your feelings
• Denying or minimizing your hurt
• Condoning unkindness
• Excusing poor behavior (making a wrong a right)
• Reconciling with the offender (although you may choose to do so)
• Telling the offender you have forgiven them