Love is a much more pleasant emotion than hate. If we get a taste for love, we will give up our taste for hate. If we allow ourselves to appreciate someone we hate, it will transform our life.
Forgiveness takes place when there is a change in our heart. If we only understand forgiveness in our mind, our heart won’t change. Forgiveness comes when we are willing to open our heart enough to feel the pain and hurt life presents to our abuser. When we do this, hostility begins to melt away.
When forgiveness matures further, our heart opens enough to become our abuser’s well wisher. We pray for his or her well being and happiness and we feel appreciation. As we do this, our resentment naturally and painlessly pours out of our softened heart.