We get stuck with forgiving when looking for logical reasons to forgive. We often say, “I can’t forgive” or “I don’t know how to forgive” because we are looking for a good reason to forgive. The problem is that we may never find a good reason.
Forgiveness challenges us to be compassionate, to offer kindness to someone who seemingly doesn’t deserve it. We may think, “Why should I be nice to the person who has hurt me?” This is the logical mind at work and this logical mind isn’t going to forgive.