A Real Man

Man and WomanIf your wife or husband says that I don’t like something that you do, if you’re smart you will listen carefully. It is the principle of a good relationship: you want to make the other person happy.

(And by the way, your spouse provides your personalized marriage manual when he or she tells you what they like or don’t like about your behavior.)

Krishna is the supreme male and Radharani is the supreme female. What does Krishna do as the Supreme male? He tries to please Radharani. That is what it means to be male. If she is angry, He stays with her and calms her down.  He doesn’t get angry, chastise her or run off. He doesn’t say, “Stop being so emotional. Get yourself together.”

There is a difference between being a man’s man, and being a woman’s man. Being a man’s man is not really male. Being male in the true sense of the word is in relation to another female, not in relation to another male. Do women like the tough guy who sometimes beats up someone?

(Maybe they do in Bollywood movies but not in real life!)

Women like the guy who is sensitive, who listens, and who deals with her problems. But men often think that if they do that they are being female, controlled, or weak. It’s actually the opposite.

If the man gets as emotional as the wife, then the situation becomes disturbed. The real male will listen and try to help his wife, and then adjust to what she needs. He is the protector, so if she is having trouble he tries to help her.

“Tell me, what’s going on!” And he listens patiently. That’s being male. That’s being a protector.

When a man understands this is his service to his wife, he makes a  great husband.

Therefore, real men make great husbands.


  1. this is very true.
    I pray for such a husband as this who can behave in such an emotionally mature way

  2. Charudeshna Radhika says:

    Beautifully explained.however do such husbands exist?

    • Mahatma Das says:

      Some such husbands exist. And I am trying to create better husbands through classes on this topic available on my site.

  3. Jambvan Das says:

    Hare Krsna
    Please accept my humble obeisances, All glories to Srila Prabhupada

    thank you for this article.
    many times i find my false ego get the best of me when i am a sweet or sensitive guy. i sometimes fear
    she might take advantage of that.


    Jambavan Das

  4. Makes perfect sense if only they could come to this understanding andnlike wise vise versa. I’m a big fan and I love reading your blog it makes me want to be a better human.

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